How do you talk about you? If you hear something so often for so long you start to believe it. Your own voice, whether it's speaking internally or out loud is the one that you hear the most. So as you clear old things out of your life and bring in new things, you may want to remodel how you speak about and to yourself.
I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve heard people say, “I feel so ugly” or “I’m fat”. I might as well just start responding to them by saying, “You sure are,” because what we speak seeps into our subconscious and subliminally hypnotizes us into believing what we are saying, then as result we end up becoming those things…even if it is only in our own mind. No matter what others see, when we look in the mirror, we only see what we’ve spoken ourselves into being.
Even more detrimental than negative self-talk that focuses on physical appearance is when people defeat themselves before they even try by speaking negatively about their ability.
For years I taught dance to young people and I got to a point where I had to ban the words, “can’t” and “don’t” from my classroom. I told my students that those were curse words. They took it so seriously that when a new student came and said one of those words, or an existing student slipped up, there would be a collective “ooooooooh”. ..that sound we make when someone is about to get in trouble.
I had those children convinced that those were two more four letter words to add to the list of profanities that they weren’t supposed say. But if you look at the term ‘curse word’ literally, it is like we are putting a curse on ourselves when we speak so negatively. I would ask those young people, “How do you know what you can’t or don’t know how to do before you’ve even tried?”
This New Year, I challenge you to focus on changing the way that you talk to and about yourself. Out with the old negative self-talk and in with the new positive self-talk or affirmations.
“An affirmation is a positive statement of (positive) belief, and if we can become one-tenth as good at positive self-talk as we are at negative self-talk, we will notice an enormous change.” – Julia Cameron, Author of The Artist’s Way