On November 1st, 32 years ago, at Cook County Lying -In Hospital in Chicago, at 1:44 am, I was born to write these Monday Morning Motivational messages for you.
Birthdays are so much more than just a day to celebrate with gifts and loved ones. Birthdays are our own personal New Year's Day. It's a day to reflect and refresh. A time to think about where we've been and where we want to go. Within that context, I've decided to declare today my B Day, with the letter b standing for far more than just the word birthday. I want to share this day with you by breaking down a few things that I want to focus on for my personal new year as I am sure that you will be able to benefit from focusing on these things too...
"B" stand for...
Having an even work-life balance is key for mental and physical health. You may have heard the term, "Work hard, play hard." This is one mantra that I make sure to adhere too. Often times we spend far too much energy on one side of the spectrum or the other. As a result, other things in our life begin to fall out of balance too. I remember hearing someone speak about how a very prominent Pastor schedules his vacation and locks the date in before he schedules any speaking engagements or anything else at the beginning of the year. This is something that we should all do. Don't make play an after thought. Play is an equally important part of the human experience. Making time to play will rejuvenate you and give you the motivation that you need to give it your all when you get back down to business.
One of my new phrases that I like to say is, "Confidence is the new black." When you wear it, it's a really good look. Confidence is not something that you can literally wear externally. You put it on on the inside and it's so powerful that it shines right through you and surrounds you with an amazing aura wherever you go. That state of confidence then translates into the action and attitude of boldness. We need to stop walking around here acting like we don't know that we deserve the best in life. With that being the case, we need to know what it is that we want, then not be afraid to ask for it. We need to open our mouths, speak up, and be more assertive. Everything we've ever wanted, is already ours, it just needs to be taken. But to get it, we must be bold.
When we don't set boundaries, other will set them for us, and I can guarantee that the one's that others set will not be in our best interest. We need to begin to set healthy boundaries when it comes to work, family and friends. If we continue to over extend ourselves we will be of no good to anyone and we will be particularly harmful to ourselves. A few years back I wrote a blog in January called, "Happy NO Year" because the best way to begin to set boundaries is by learning to say "No." Even beyond that, we must realize that when we say "No" that we don't have to follow it with an explanation. Simply saying "No" is enough.
Today I challenge you to live a balanced life boldly within healthy boundaries. Happy B Day!!!