I'll never forget the scene from one of the old Superman movies where Lois Lane was falling through the sky when Superman swooped down, seemingly from out of nowhere, to save her. What was most memorable about that scene for me was what she said,
"You’ve got me...Who’s got you?"
Basically, she wanted know, if he was saving her, then who was saving him? That makes me think about many of us who have a tendency to try to save the world at the expense of ourselves. We do this without any super powers and believe that we can come out unscathed. The truth of the matter is that we may not only be hindering the growth of those that we love, but we may also be harming ourselves in the process.
The same is the case with athletic icons. People idolize Michael Jordan, Lebron James, Kobe Bryant and the like, but those men as individuals would not be able to go up against the opposing team to win the game alone. There is a team of people behind them, whose names we may not even know, that support them on the path to victory.
Are you a self-appointed superman or a superwoman, always flying to the rescue of those in need around you? If so, who is looking out for you? Even the man of steel has a weakness...kyrptonite. Kryptonite is the only thing that can weaken and ultimately kill the otherwise invincible man. If this seemingly invulnerable man has something that can take him out, then why do we feel that we are exempt? Your kryptonite may come in the form of physical or mental illness, loss or grief, or unexpected hardships that come your way. Or, quite simply, life and all of the responsibilities that you’ve take on will eventually wear you down. With this being the case it is important that you have someone or something to rescue you too.
So, the question is...Who's got you?
The first step is simple. Let God do His work. You may think you can save the world, but the first thing that I quickly learned as a social worker is that you can't. Of course we can make a difference and an impact in many major ways, but we must face and accept the fact that no matter how hard we may try, we cannot save the world. If you truly want God to move in your life and the lives of others...then get out of His way.
The next step is to identify a sturdy support system. This is a network of people that serve as a safety net that can catch you when you fall or a scaffold that can assist you in reaching higher heights. This can vary from an army of one, to a starting lineup of five or an all-star dream team of twelve or more. Find people that add value to your life in that they have strengths in areas where you are weak. These are people that have the strength and wisdom to steer or pull you away from substances and situations that might destroy you.
So this week I challenge you to take a step back and observer your behaviors and habits when it comes to trying to be everyone’s everything. The next time you are in the midst of saving someone imagine them turning to you and saying, “You’ve got me…who’s got you?”